Ever been talked over? Have you ever sat with people and remained silent as they spoke about things they could hardly relate to but have an unwavering opinion on? I have. Muting your voice does not serve you or anyone else. Here's where I turn the volume up! Some people I'm sure would say I'm not a conversationalist. These are the same people who have never asked me questions or tried to get to know me. Why is that? I'm not entirely sure. Maybe they have some sort of bias. Maybe it's because they feel they know enough, as if surface is all there is and I "lack" depth.
Well, here's some advice: Step outside of your perspective... Depth isn't visible to the naked eye baby - take the plunge. If you truly want to get to know someone, ask the hard questions. Ask the questions you are scared to ask. Most times when you engage this way you break barriers and create a bond. The problem is we judge before we know. The problem is we believe in theories as facts. Some even believe that cultural differences create an inability to connect. People want easy and instant. The good things in life aren't always facile. These views are myopic. The hard things, the things that take a while, are most often worth it. Broaden your horizons see beyond what you have learned or what has been taught to you. What works for some can be detrimental to others. If there's someone in your life that you want to connect with I urge you to ask them a question today. I don't mean a generic "How are you?" I mean an authentic " What sets your soul on fire?" or "Can you pinpoint when you became a little more reserved and a little less open?" you never know you might get a " my soul becomes immersed in joy when the norm is defied and when I go against the status quo." or "What made me a little more reserved was the exploitation of my culture and this has caused me to be less open to others whom don't seek a better understanding of that." This opens up the opportunity to ask more questions, share your ideas and just overall create a nice conversation flow. Enabling you to connect on a personal level.
You don't have to be a architect to appreciate a beautiful building.
You don't have to be a choreographer to dance.
You don't have to be religious to have a God.
You don't have to have a degree to be intelligent.
You do have to have an open mind to listen to matters of the heart.
If you don't give a fuck and only want what is familiar in your circle, then disregard because the people of a higher caliber will be better off without you.
The motion of your ocean steers me into a different space
Far from mars
Drifting through galaxies no ones heard of before
You seize the moment and dive into my endless sea of love
I'm star struck
A reflection of my hips curving in and out
While using these PC muscles to grip your spout
Faster and then slower
And I arch my way back
You breathe deeply
It's warm inside but I feel chills down my spine
Should I stop?
I swiftly grind and when you are just about to climax
I swim to the tip
Then you sink in...
Where sea & space meet.
|A poem written on January 25,2020|
A blended family woman choosing to share the journey of self-love, motherhood, marriage, some things that fuel fear and most of what feeds the soul through poetry and story telling.